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Comment on the right to be equally objectified by In our spaces? « Touchingly Naive

In our spaces? « Touchingly Naive — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:08:28 +0000

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Comment on it is an act of charity or pity to love someone like me by Deborah, Chino, CA

Deborah, Chino, CA — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 01:30:08 +0000

I had never heard about this show before, so the clip above was startling, not to mention horrifying and humiliating. All trans-women face this humiliation, regardless of their sexual orientation. However, unlike Miriam and those who appear on “The Jerry Springer Show,” most of us are intelligent enough to tell our romantic interest what’s up privately. I don’t think any of us are stupid enough to tell them in front of their snickering friends, and especially not on national (and soon international) television.

And yes, Tom did reject Miriam off camera, and eventually settled out of court (along with the other contestants) for an undisclosed amount. Despite Miriam’s protests that she was actually “looking for love,” I’m sure the sizable paycheck she got for degrading herself, humiliating her victims, and harming all trans-women got her quite nicely through the rejection. The best the rest of us can hope for when rejected is that we are not harmed or murdered, an all to frequent and very real possibility in our off-TV reality.

As if my life weren’t hard enough dealing with being a transwoman, a lesbian, and now fighting cancer, Reality TV has to come along and perpetuate stereotypes which will insure I will die alone even if I do beat cancer, get SRS, and begin to live a more normal (whatever that is) life.

All I can do now is brace for when the show airs on Halloween, and hope that no one I know or will meet watches it.

Comment on it is an act of charity or pity to love someone like me by Karen S

Karen S — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 14:30:46 +0000

But I just read that Thom joined in the lawsuit against the show…phooey on him, after all.

Comment on it is an act of charity or pity to love someone like me by Karen S

Karen S — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 14:29:35 +0000

What on Earth was Miriam thinking when she agreed to do this show?

I give more credit to Thom for accepting her, than I do for Miriam, for trying to make Thom “play the fool” at the expense of her identity. And mine, for that matter.

Comment on don’t bother answering in kind, just shout us down - it’s fun and easy by John

John — Fri, 10 Aug 2007 02:40:32 +0000

Of course, gloss over how the woman laments NOT murdering her son when she had the chance. Of course that’s irrelevant, she’s a woman and her son is merely a “male thing”. Keep ignoring the glaringly obvious reasons for the reaction to her misandristic rantings.

Comment on don’t bother answering in kind, just shout us down - it’s fun and easy by Aghar

Aghar — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 23:06:52 +0000

Marti: All of the anonymous attackers are using open proxies, most of them overseas. The type that are also used to, say, let people send communication into and out of China without prosecution. Bad with the good.

Comment on don’t bother answering in kind, just shout us down - it’s fun and easy by sabrinastar

sabrinastar — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 18:10:18 +0000

I’m not personally worried, Marti. Neither here nor on LJ could someone attack me anonymously. It’s just… there’s a pattern here. Remember what happened to Kathy Sierra? Or Jill Filipovic of Feministe? These kinds of attacks are coordinated and planned. They are deliberate attacks designed to terrorize women. No one should have to deal with it in the first place.

Comment on don’t bother answering in kind, just shout us down - it’s fun and easy by Marti Abernathey

Marti Abernathey — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 18:06:11 +0000

Um…you could start by banning IP addresses…. and then bitch slap them with a DOS TOS violation to their ISP. Then, if that didn’t work, you could just open up another wordpress blog, put your content there, and fwd the url there in frames. There wouldn’t be anyone who could touch you.

Comment on the surrealness of transition, one year in by YukiChoe

YukiChoe — Wed, 01 Aug 2007 18:43:51 +0000

Hi, just stumbled by here through transadvocate. I guess I would feel the same way as you do. After a year plus there are still so much to unlearn and learn. But at least in time we are coming closer to who we are. : )

Comment on the surrealness of transition, one year in by nexy

nexy — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 21:02:31 +0000

it’s been my experience that transition never ends. but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. and regarding your observations, yes, that aligns with my experience as well.