Privileged and Pretty Equals Success

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This morning I received an email talking about a website called “The Pink Butterfly Network“. It claims to be a knockoff of Lynn Conway’s Transsexual Women’s Successes, pointing to transsexual women who should inspire us.

I like Lynn Conway, and her Transsexual Women’s Successes page has become more than just pretty faces. But this knockoff site and others like it bother me. A success to who? What qualifies as a success? Someone that is feminine? Someone that is pretty? To me, this list plays to the worst face of the trans-community. It’s reminds me of this:

It’s every ugly thing that radical feminists say about us. Successful=feminine, Successful=thin, Successful=attractive. How misogynistic and shallow is that?

Success stories in my book are Ethan St. Pierre, Merissa Richmond, Monica Roberts, Diego Sanchez, Meghan Stabler, Katrina Rose, Vanessa Edwards Foster, Allyson Robinson, Earline Budd, and Robyn Walters.  Not all of them are pretty, young, or feminine. They all have one thing in common… success.

Oh and I left one off the list… me. I am a successful transwoman. And I don’t need a website full of privileged white transwomen adorned with pink butterflies and glitter to know that.


  1. Jenna September 3, 2009
  2. Jenna September 3, 2009
  3. Marti Abernathey September 3, 2009
  4. Marti Abernathey September 3, 2009
  5. Alyson September 4, 2009
  6. Alyson September 4, 2009
  7. Emery Walters September 8, 2009
    • Marti Abernathey September 8, 2009
  8. Emery Walters September 8, 2009
    • Marti Abernathey September 8, 2009
  9. Geotrans89 October 4, 2010
  10. Sugarfreejazz October 24, 2010
    • Anonymous October 25, 2010
  11. Anonymous October 25, 2010
  12. Anonymous October 25, 2010
  13. Lisa Harney October 25, 2010
  14. Anonymous October 25, 2010
  15. Anonymous October 25, 2010
  16. Heathercam October 25, 2010

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