Matt Kailey

March 10, 2014

Ask Matt: Changing My Friends’ Perception of My Gender

A reader writes: “I recently started college, and I quickly came to the realization that I am transgender. I have been transitioning every way but physically […]
February 5, 2014

Trans Etiquette: When is a Compliment Not a Compliment?

By Matt Kailey It’s not tough to compliment trans people. Like anyone else, we like to be told that we look nice, or that you love […]
December 19, 2013

Ask Matt: Coming Out About My Trans Partner at Christmas

By Matt Kailey A reader writes: “I’m a non-transgender pansexual woman who has been dating my friend, a male-to-female transgender person, for a few months. “I’ve […]
October 14, 2013

Ask Matt: Would a Genderless World Affect Transition?

A reader writes: “I’ve been thinking about gender roles and how most of them are created and imposed by society. I believe our behaviour could be […]
September 19, 2013

Ask Matt: Correcting Pronouns on Someone Else’s Behalf

A reader writes: “Our good friends have a daughter, Linda (I changed the name that the reader sent in, because I didn’t know if it was […]
September 4, 2013

Ask Matt: What is My Sexual Identity?

A reader writes: “I am having issues determining my sexual identity since transition from female to male. Dating and having a relationship are things I consciously […]
August 30, 2013

Ask Matt: Coming Out at Home and at School

A reader writes: “I am a 16-year-old transman. According to my mom, I am much too young to consider myself a transman, and that this isn’t […]
July 24, 2013

Passing and Stealth: Two Words to Lose? Part Two

Stealth has always reminded me of military aircraft (stealth bombers), trailing someone at a distance, or peeking around corners, dressed in a black overcoat and sunglasses. […]
July 16, 2013

Ask Matt: What Am I? Labels and Identities

Today we have two letters about identity that I thought went together quite well. So here goes: A reader writes: “I consider myself transgender – I […]