Some of the trans-related news we’re reading today, Friday …
#1 - Bathrooms have been in the news recently (here, here) in North Carolina …

In the past, an activist might picket City Hall, burn a draft card or occupy a segregated lunch counter. Now there’s a new cause: public restrooms.
Bathrooms — how and where they are built, and who should use them — are an urgent topic on college campuses across the Triangle and nation.
Three N.C. State University students have proposed installing lockable, unisex restrooms in all new campus buildings as a convenience for transgender students, the disabled, nursing mothers and single parents with children of the opposite sex. They seek to join at least 17 universities, including UNC-Chapel Hill, in mandating a gender-neutral john.
“There’s been a real push to support diversity on campus,” said Madeline Goss, a senior and male-to-female transgender student. “I go to the bathroom and I don’t get a second look. But there was a time when people walked out when they saw me in the bathroom.”
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Goss settled on the restroom idea in a summer technical writing class. The assignment: find something on campus you’d like to change and draw up a report to make it happen. When she began becoming a woman in the spring, she met confused faces and dirty looks when she used a men’s room. Two classmates joined her in the project, and they saw potential for unisex bathrooms beyond N.C. State’s transgender population, which is small and hard to gauge.
Disabled people often have caregivers of the opposite sex. Mothers may not be comfortable taking a son into the women’s room, or sending a small child into a men’s stall alone. The students’ proposal envisions bathrooms with doors that can be locked, something that might appeal to sexual assault victims. And nursing mothers need a place to themselves.
Goss, senior Ashley Winfree and junior Karen Achtyl spent the summer poring over plumbing codes and state regulations, finding allies in advocacy groups and investigating campuses nationwide. They found policies supporting gender-neutral bathrooms at the University of Arizona and University of California-Berkeley.
At Arizona, students can choose restrooms based on perceived identity than biological gender, and the students seek a similar provision here. New restrooms would go in new buildings, those getting major renovations or anyplace possible.
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Students rally for gender-neutral johns
#2 - Autumn posted a story yesterday of one teacher in transition. From North Carolina, here’s a another teacher story …
A teacher at a Durham private school underwent a sex change over the summer, sparking a debate among school administrators and at least one parent over how to approach the issue in class.
Leslie Webster has taught music at Duke School for Children for 12 years as a woman but started the new school year Wednesday as a man.
The parents of all 460 students at the private elementary and middle school, which isn’t affiliated with Duke University, received a letter this week notifying them of Webster’s sex change and outlining plans to inform students on Sept. 4.
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In his letter to parents, [headmaster Dave] Michelman called Duke School “an open, accepting community that honors diversity in many aspects.”
“Leslie’s transition is making him more content,” Michelman said in the letter. “Leslie’s feeling of peace can only translate to the children having a better (classroom) experience with him.”
Parents picking up their children from school Wednesday said they hadn’t yet talked to their children about Webster.
Parent Doesn’t Want Children to Learn of Teacher’s Sex Change
#3 - From Seattle, a story on trans kids and the Gender Odyssey Family Conference which begins today …

Five-year-old Zach stands barefoot in the middle of his bedroom, faced with a dilemma: Should he wear the pink dress or the powder blue? Both are long princess-style affairs, the first displayed on a hanger held by his mother, Rebecca, the second, slightly wrinkled, pulled from the top of a dresser by Zach himself.
“Or would you rather wear your witch’s outfit?” his mother asks him, nodding at a black polyester costume in the closet, its neckline trimmed in orange.
“No,” Zach says. “I think I want the blue one.” He dashes out of the room with dress in hand, returning half a minute later, his pink T-shirt replaced by a tight crushed-velvet bodice. Zach bounds around the room, smiling, wisps of blond hair breaking free from the French braid that trails down his back.
It’s that playful exuberance that Rebecca and her husband, John, hope their son never loses. “But we’re concerned that this piece of him will get lost, if other children aren’t able to respond to him well,” says Rebecca, 39, who asked that her family’s real names not be used.
Of course, most parents dream of the best for their children. But Rebecca and her husband are a certain kind of parent: They’re raising a boy who wants to dress in girls’ clothes. And that places them in largely uncharted territory. Is this a passing phase or something central to Zach’s identity?
A compass of sorts may await the family this weekend, when mother and son participate in a local conference called Gender Odyssey Family. The event at the Washington State Convention and Trade Center will be Seattle’s first conference for parents raising “gender-variant” kids, or those children who fall outside what’s traditionally defined as “boy” or “girl.”
The conference will offer 23 sessions over the course of the weekend, some geared toward entire families and others focused specifically on gender-variant teens.
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“Whoever he becomes, that’s OK because that’s who he is”
#4 - COSMOS magazine from Australia has a feature on intersex …
AFTER YOUR NAME, what’s the first thing you’re asked on most forms? It’s almost always whether you’re ‘male’ or ‘female’, right? Gender is so basic to our identity that few of us stop to even think about it. However, for a significant proportion of the population it’s not so black and white. Consider these real-life stories:
There once was a boy named Bruce. As a baby he lost his penis in an accident and was surgically transformed into a girl called Brenda.
Then there’s Kylie. She was told that she was born with deformed ovaries that were surgically removed at age four. As a young woman, she discovered she was actually born with testes and male chromosomes, though she has only ever considered herself female.
Tony was also technically born as a genetic male but, because of his atypical genitalia, the doctors at the time decided he would be better off assigned as a female. By the time he turned seven, his phallus had started to grow. Doctors subsequently removed his testes to prevent him from masculinising any further; but the truth was he had always felt like a man, not a woman. When he turned 30, he chose to live his life as a man.
Zoe was born a male but always felt like a female. She did her best to accept her male form and identity but found the effort to maintain the charade became increasingly difficult and stressful over the years. Then, aged 47, her body spontaneously began making the transition into a female … and the relief was enormous.
SO WHAT’S THE STORY? Is gender merely a state of mind, an attribute that can be switched over with a bit of surgery and positive thinking? We think of our gender as something ‘given to us by nature’; but could it have just as much to do with ‘nurture’?
The issue of gender is not as sharply defined as most people believe. As the stories of Bruce, Kylie, Tony and Zoe make clear, the boundaries that separate masculine and feminine can sometimes be difficult to delineate. And science attests to that.
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Intersex: The space between the genders
There’s also a companion article, Intersex: Case studies, co-authored by Zoe Brain.
#5 - The quote(s) of the day, from the Washington Blade’s Bitch Session …
It’s transgender people that need the gay and lesbian movement to succeed not the other way around. They are a minority within a minority who couldn’t get very far without us yet they always arrogantly fail to recognize that! Learn some humility instead of being so damn uppity!
To the transgender activist who had the gall to say that gays and lesbians can’t move forward without them: The fact is transgender activists have opposed gay rights legislation in the past simply because they weren’t included! Despite their being as bad as Christian conservatives or selfish brats, we often managed to succeed without them! They should thank us for forgiving them for this and allowing them to retard our progress by including them now!